Dear Diary….

LOL!!!!  I was terrible at writing in my diary.  Literally….every time I had one it would start out like this…..

Dear Diary,

This time I’m going to be really good about writing in you every day!!!!

Then…..weeks later…..

Dear Diary,

Well…..I guess I wasn’t as good as I wanted.

Then a year later…..

Dear Diary,

Ok, I’m starting over and THIS time I’m going to be really good.

then……well, usually I’d buy a new one and start the whole thing over again! HA!!!!  I even had a super amazing Lisa Frank diary….with a lock 😉 and I was just a bit dramatic back then….of course I’m more sensible now!

So life has been a little crazy the past few months.  The end of the school year, house projects, super busy self employed hubby, and life in general.  I can’t lie and say I didn’t enjoy ignoring my blog for a while….it took off a bit of the pressure I was feeling.  Sometimes life just gets overwhelming and you need to cut some things, or put them on pause, so you can feel a little bit of the weight lifted.  I’ve had some interesting things happen and I can’t wait to start writing about them and getting back to this!  Forgive me for being MIA 😉

This time…..I will be better!!! HAHA!!!

Katie 🙂

Winning At Losing

I don’t like to lose.  I think it would be fair to say that most people don’t like losing.  We are competitive by nature….we all want to be the best, be number 1, or be successful.  No one wants to lose, feel like your hard work didn’t pay off.  But losing is part of the whole game….if someone wins, someone has to lose.

I had a small winning streak recently.  Little things….a travel coffee mug from a local restaurant, a gift cert for jewelry from an insurance company, and other things that just made me feel happy.  Like I was on top of the world.  Then.  THEN!!!!  I was notified I had this huge chance to do something I’ve been trying to do for 15 years!  A company that makes mastectomy bras and breast prosthesis let me know that I was a finalist in their Faces of Inspiration contest….and if I won I would be flown to Georgia for a weekend of pampering, featured in their catalog, and most importantly….I would have a chance to tell my story on a bigger scale!  This was it!  I was one of 4 amazing ladies who have gone through breast cancer.  There would be two weeks of voting online….you could vote as much as you wanted!

 

I was sharing it all over social media, and so were my friends and family.  Strangers were getting in on this.  Everyone told me…..you’ve got this!!!!!! It was exciting, thrilling, and I was on a high!  What an amazing opportunity this would be….and a little pampering too?  Sigh…..

And then……I didn’t win.  I got the call, the heads up, before they announced the winner.  The winner that wasn’t me.  I was heartbroken.  I didn’t want to talk to anyone….I was just so…..sad.  I decided to take that day to allow myself to be sad….grieve the chance I lost….and then let it go.

And that is what I did.  The next day was a new day, and full of new opportunities. It wasn’t immediate….I still had sadness….but I didn’t allow myself to be consumed by it.

This all came back to me when later that week I had the chance to teach my youngest daughter the same thing.  We were playing board games and she HATES to lose.  She could be the one who will throw the entire game board off the table in frustration.  She hates it so much.

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Today was one of those days…..losing at some math game she brought home from school.  I told her…..don’t you remember that I was just in this contest?  And did I win?  I told her it’s ok to be upset if you lose, but going overboard and throwing a fit just takes away the excitement from the person who did win.  And that is never ok.  In any competition or game, if someone wins…..someone will lose.  So we tell that person, good job and congratulations, and we try again.  You never know if your words are getting through to your kids, but a week later, she repeated that all back to me during a conversation about losing.  It made me so proud that not only did she listen, but I could teach her that hard lesson in life by my example.

Losing sucks.  It really does, but losing gracefully shows so much more about your character.  I’m thankful for the opportunity that I had….and to see the amazing support I had….and I’m sad that I didn’t win this one……but in the long run, I still feel like a winner.  And I want my kids to be like that.

Katie 🙂

Lift Each Other Up!

Women…..can be terrible.  We all know it.  Catty, jealous, mean, and sucky people.  It’s terrible to see….and I think to a point we are all guilty of it.  Whether you admit it or not…..to some degree….we all wish we could have what someone else has.  Have their lives, their successes, their looks, their drive, their everything.  We all look at each other and wish we had it…..and never look at what we do have….the thing other women are seeing in you.

I’m guilty of it.  Why can’t I be prettier, skinnier, more successful, more popular, have a clean house?  I have my faults….and that is what I see first in other people…..they have what I’m lacking.  Some people cannot get past that and want to drag that person down…make them lose so they can feel like a winner.  Women are terrible about that.

They can also be extremely supportive.  When you have people in your circle that love you, they want you to succeed no matter what.  They don’t sit at home wishing they were you….they celebrate by your side!  They cheer and tell the world how awesome you are!  I have been blessed with some AMAZING women in my life…..and today I want to talk about 3 of them that have not only blessed my life, inspired me to try harder.  They have done amazing thing…..truly amazing.  I have to say….they are nothing short of extraordinary.

Jamie

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This woman literally walked in New York Fashion Week!  I’ve known Jamie since the 5th grade.  We’ve known each other most of our lives, our families have somehow been involved over the years, and eventually we moved to the same city, working at the same place.  We weren’t close….but knew each other.  Until the day Jamie called me out of the blue to tell me she had breast cancer.  She knew I had gone through it years before and she needed to reach out to anyone who understood.  Our friendship grew from that day in to something amazing.  She is my sister….we get each other.  We are dorks, and it’s awesome.  She took what life handed her and turned it around.  She started her own company of natural products.  She sells to celebrities.  She puts herself out there with complete vulnerability and helps anyone who needs it. She supports, cheers, and lifts.  She is beautiful inside and out, and you can’t go wrong with her in your corner.  It would be easy to hate her….I mean…look at her!  She’s literally perfect.  Sometimes I feel horrible walking around with her.  But those are the demons getting to you, you know?  She is my best friend, pink sister, dorky partner in crime…..and I’m so extremely lucky to have her.

 

Amanda

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Amanda is a force to be reckoned with.  She is one of the most determined girls I have ever met.  She is quite literally the storm.  She was diagnosed with breast cancer at the same age I was….many years later.  She is like a little sister…..but I would never have wished this life for her.  She has since gone through 4 cancer reoccurances….and is metastatic.  Yet you would never know if you met her today.  She is the strongest person….she does not give up.  She takes care of her girls with energy that I don’t even have, and I’m not in any treatment!  She started a non-profit that brings joy to children going through cancer and life threatening illnesses at children’s hospitals….and was just recognized locally as a pay it forward person of the year.  She always finds a way to help another person, and you will never see her leave the house without looking like a freaking model.  I’m in relatively good health and I can’t find the energy to accomplish what she does…..and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little jealous of that determination! She is truly amazing and my life is better with her in it!

 

Denise

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Denise.  This is a hard one.  The day we lost Denise was the day something awoke in me….a fire that I’m sure she had been trying to start.  She was our local celebrity and champion for everything breast cancer.  She wanted everyone to have support, encouragement, needs met, and every medical option available.  She never slept….she was always putting events together, getting people to support them, and telling the world about them.  She was a strong personality and everyone felt important when she was talking to them.  I wanted to know her for so long….and when we met, it was life changing.  I became involved….she wouldn’t let me sit on the sidelines.  She succeeded in everything she set her mind to and the world is a little darker without her in it.  She is literally one of those woman you don’t want to like.  She had everything….but she welcomed everyone in to her circle.  She is the reason that I have done anything over the last few years….she knew what it was to push people to jump…..and succeed.  I miss her terribly….and I’m thankful for her guidance, encouragement, and friendship.

 

These women all had something in common…..a disease that changed our lives.  We had things all figured out, and cancer came along and shook us up.  It would have been easier to let it take over and make us feel weaker.  We took the opportunity to make ourselves stronger…..but it wouldn’t have been possible without the support of our women……and these are just 3 of the amazing women I get to call friend and have seen do amazing things.  It would also be easy for me to sit back and wonder why it’s not me?  Those thoughts do creep in….I really don’t think anyone out there can say it doesn’t happen once in a while…..but I have my own things.  And when I do something….they are there to cheer for me, like I am for them.

We need more of that, don’t we?  Let’s celebrate the things the women in our lives do…build each other up, and be happy.

Katie

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