We have had massive flooding where I live, and I’ve been seeing the struggle all around me. People are sharing their frustrations and experiences….and mostly people are supportive and sympathetic. Then there are those who just can’t say the right things. Sometimes their thoughts are not intended to be mean or cruel…..some are, but I’m not talking about them. There are people…..and I’m one of them….who no matter what they think….the words that come out are not always the best. I struggle with this a lot…and end up saying nothing to prevent my stumbly self from making someone feel bad. This is why I was so understanding of those who said the wrong things when I went through chemo….and even to this day. Not everyone understands what you are going through and want to show their support in any way they can. It’s not every person’s strong suit. There are people who should be professional supporters. The beautiful and perfect things they say could be poetry…and then there is me and all the others like me that just seem to say one long DUUUHHHHH. Ugh.
There were a lot of people who said some pretty horrible things to me. I was able to recognize they weren’t trying to hurt me. Sometimes the things your heart feels and your mind thinks just don’t come out right. Not everyone is as understanding….I’m not easily offended. And maybe because I suffer from the same thing…..I get it. I’ve often asked to write rather than talk….it’s easier and less awkward. I tend to speak before I think….and that leads to some backtracking and explaining….I always feel sorry for people who have to endure me in conversation.
Not everyone is out to offend. Just remember that….not everyone truly understands and they try to show their support and love no matter what. They want you to know they are thinking about you…..they just can’t express it like a poet. All of this coming from someone who often has to remove her foot from her mouth.